I hear this phrase all the time: I wish they could stay babies forever! The sentiment is clear – babies are hard to resist. To be fair, they are created that way for a purpose – so we want to take care of them while they need us to survive!
Moreover, as soon as they achieve their relative independence – can confidently take care of their basic needs themselves – they are not so irresistible anymore. Which does not mean we love them any less! They are just no longer “babies” and we don’t drool over them every minute they are around.
Besides, they beauty of babies and the preciousness that goes with everything about them lies precisely in the fact that it’s fleeting! Do I regret not having made all the dozen little footprints of my Little Love on all available media when he was newborn? Or not having recreated all those gorgeous newborn baby photos from Pinterest? Of course I do! But that does not make his current footprints and pictures any less valuable or adorable!
Today, however, this phrase scared me. Because I realized that babies do stay babies forever if they die. Therefore, in no context it is desired.
Still, it happens. To a 6 month old girl who died of pneumonia in a hospital corridor because… There should not be a “because”!!! But there is. The hospital was over-crowded during an epidemic, there were no beds available in rooms and the sick were placed in beds along hospital walls, doctors could not attend to everyone. This little girl burnt in fever. In the hospital. On a bed. In the corridor.
I do not want babies to stay babies forever.
Recently we went on a hike to a tiny waterfall here in the mountains. There on the rocks I saw some magical lizards – bright blue with gold, unbelievably fascinating!
Google and Wikipedia tell me they are Plestiodon fasciatus or American five-lined skink .
I was so taken by this wonder of nature that it was only when they all ran away I remembered I had not taken a picture of them (Pictures above are Google Images). But it was OK. After all, I had a chance to SEE these guys with my own eyes, in the wild, not in a picture or TV!
This brought up an old
argument discussion with Love: he insists on capturing Every Thing on camera. To me, it often looks like he is observing the surrounding through his phone! And that cannot provide a full picture of reality. I get especially irritated by that when we travel. You see, I want to see, to notice, to observe, to soak in every new place with my own eyes! And nose 🙂 And only then I am ready to take pictures. Sometimes, it’s too late and the object’s gone.
Another example is with Little Love. The majority of pictures we have of him were taken by Love. While I sit and admire how beautiful/clever/fast/touching/funny our baby is, Love takes photos of those moments, saving them for the history 🙂 I get all angry with him for not enjoying the moment, “This is so important and you are missing it!”. But after I scroll through the photos, I am grateful to him for what he does. Otherwise, many many of these special little moments would have been lost irrevocably as our memory is so unreliable.
In the end, Love is right yet again – pictures are better than no pictures.
But that does not excuse terabytes of useless and annoying selfies on the internet!
Have you ever gotten so emotional coming up with and writing birthday wishes to a dear friend that you cried?
Reminded me of that scene from Romancing the Stone where Joan Wilder (Kathleen Turner) is sobbing over her typewriter in her pyjamas as she completes her own manuscript 🙂
What is your favorite smell? What memory does it remind you of?
Amber. Arabian Nights.
Name a song or two which are included on the soundtrack to your life?
Do you play video/computer game? Which one(s) or most recent?
The only two games I ever played were Super Mario Bros and the tanks 🙂 but I was an authority in theoretical knowledge on the subject of computer games (Quake, Mortal Combat, Red Alert, Counter Strike, WarCraft, etc) among my former students 🙂
Which of Snow White’s 7 dwarfs describes you best? Plus what would the 8th dwarf’s name be? (Doc, Happy, Bashful, Sleepy, Sneezy, Grumpy, Dopey)
I think I’m a mutant of Grumpy and Dopey. Can’t think of a good name right now, will come back to it tomorrow 😉
Do you prefer shopping or going to a park?
Definitely a Park, at any time. I enjoy buying groceries, though 🙂
What is the highest score you’ve ever made in bowling? Actual or virtually played.
I don’t think I have played bowling. I’ll let you know if and when I do.
Name the foreign countries you’ve been to.
1. Ukraine – though not foreign for me.
2. United States – though not foreign for most on the blogosphere.
3. Morocco, my Love.
4. Singapore, my childhood Wonderland.
5. Malaysia – a short trip to the Ocean.
6. France – a memorable glimpse of Paris.
7. Turkey – the unforgettable Istanbul and mythical Cyprus.
8. Italy – a day of strolling through Trieste, almost stumbling into an ancient Roman Theater!! Visits are free of charge (?!)
9. Russia – Moscow is quite inevitable if you were born in the USSR.
10. Belarus – a summer visit to me great-grandma.
Describe your own outlook on life in seven words or less.
Home, Physical Comfort , Contentment, Achievement shared with Love.